My Baby and I

My Mummy Told Me…

With the imminent birth of our first child my husband and I have recently been discussing how we are going to bring him or her up in terms of what morals to instill in him or her, what kind of advice we are going to give, what we will encourage him or her to do in life etc. We both thought back to our upbringings and what advice was given to us by our parents.

The advice that always sticks in my mind is that which my mum gave to both my sister and I about men during our teenage years. She always said them tongue in cheek, with a hint of humour, but with a glint in her eye that she meant it too!

Here are the pieces of advice she gave, along with a comment about whether I have achieved them:

“Make sure you live with a man before agreeing to marry him” - yep, I definitely managed on that one (albeit living together for only a few months).

“Date many men before you find one to settle down with” - I dated enough to be able to appreciate what a gentleman my husband is and that I was on to a good thing when I met him!

“Don’t get married before you are 30 years old” - almost, but not quite, I got married when I was 29 (and a half).

“Don’t get pregnant by accident - wait until you want to have kids” - yep, managed this one. Our first child is due any day now and was planned like a military operation.

I’m not sure how my husband will feel about me passing this advice on to our daughter in years to come if we have a baby girl!

This post is my entry in to a group writing project that is being run by The Weary Parent. The theme is summed up by the author as:

I want to know what advice your parents or another influential adult gave you as a teen that you took to heart.

Read The Weary Parent’s post to find out more about the project.

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